Helping Healthy Healing

june 19 2025

Today is Thursday is it the 5th day of the week? The 4th day of a work week ? The day before Friday? The day before the last day of work before the weekend? the weekend consisting of the last and first day of the week , so why do we call it the weekend? Assuming it’s because it starts with the end of the week? Why can’t we call it a tease? By the time you’re feeling refreshed from the hard work you’ve put in during the week you have to start out all over. Soon my opinion it should be 3 days not 2 Thursday- Sunday or Friday through Monday . Anyway ADHD does affect me in many different ways and differently throughout my life . One of the things that has never changed is that squirrel moment! I will talk about random things randomly and at random times!
So what I wanted to talk about is unhealthy relationships. I know I’ve my share of toxicity, physical abuse, mental , & sexual abuse. Not everyone gets it right the first the first second or 3rd time… finding to be right partner takes time and patience and isn’t easy. What I’ve always told everyone, stop looking for love . It’s like going to buy a dress for a special occasion, you can’t ever find what you’re looking for … same with love it’ll come when the time is right patients is a virtue and good things come to those who wait . And even it finds you irl slap you in the face , but that’s not what I’m writing about. I just want to let young Women know from experience, and others of you’re a young woman and the common sense isn’t there or have anyone else pointing out the dangers of your relationship then you’ve been sheltered or something. Early 20s and her man is obsessed with her, controls everything but her money which he had no problem spending it. Guns and there accessories are his favorite hobby owns many of them, won’t let you go anywhere without him tagging along and if he’s not physically present , he is on her cell phone so he’s basically there the whole time you’re out with a girl friend. You then proceed to move in with the man, then he blacks you eye? You’re in a death trap at 22 . This isn’t normal behavior and to be so ignorant blows my mind… How could she actually believe that this is ok? And have been with him 5 years? Recently moved in together… I’m literally mind blown.. My opinion plan carefully, you’ve got to disappear pre plan a completely new identity somewhere else. You’re in so much danger and possibly your loved ones I don’t know 100% of the situation but he’s insecurity, obsession, controlling physically abusive & probably mentally abusive , manipulating in some form your still with him, and he own lots of firearms . He’s mentally deranged . Don’t tell him your leaving , and get out of dodge cuz the longer you with him the worse that snap with be the day you tell him you’re done. I’m praying for you girl. I pray that you wake up soon. I need others to pray for her as well with me, she needs strength, and protection, she needs all she can to get her safely away from him. Smile be happy it’s Good for you , I’ll help you , get away, heal from the trauma and you’ll find a healthy relationship

2025 …..

there are so many things that I wanna say, but Privacy I’m not

But for privacy reasons, I’m not going to a blast Blast

i’m not gonna put people’s business out here but I’m I only write this for I guess my myself I don’t know of anyone who is actually reading it I will tell you 2025. It’s got it marvelous interesting worthy points and definitely the better ones of the year are to come but a little bit into this year. I have walked down the street with my laundry in a basket, I’ve walked so much, but it actually knocked the wheels off the basket. I have done that till 1 o’clock in the morning so that my kid has you know clean clothes to wear to school the next day something happened with my well and with a sand bucket, which let me tell you only gets like maybe 6 ounces at a time to pull up out of the well to wash my dishes since my daughter wants to dirty up every dish that I have in the house and without running water at the moment you know it’s kind of hard to wash dishes. I have walked 45 minutes to go get my daughter‘s glasses that she left at a friend‘s house I have had someone tell me I’m worthless and thought it was funny. I have the ability to point out a narcissist now or see that someone is a narcissist a whole lot quicker than I did before because I had never actually dealt with one until a year ago and yes, I know that people throw that word around like you know it’s the word a it or is or no or something but a narcissist really really will break you down like really break you down I’ve never had someone break me down like that. I’ve had you know people do some pretty messed up things to me. I have had people say some pretty harsh things to me, but a narcissist literally will break you down will completely change you and you have to fight to get yourself back. You have to struggle you have to excuse me. It is a struggle to get yourself back very capable of doing, but it was a struggle and the sad part about it. Is you still love that narcissist you still love that person who completely destroyed your confidence momentarily destroyed it and I do believe that a narcissist knows that they’re destroying you and I honestly don’t know if they really have feelings or not. I mean, I can see the sadness, but does it actually hurt them? Do they really have feelings? I don’t I don’t know like I honestly don’t know. I thought at one time that there was an impulse to say the things that are not nice so therefore you know I could be forgiving of those does not nice words, but when he really needed me in the moment I saw and heard the words that were about to be spoken out loud that were not going to be nice and then I see that quickability to not allow them to come out I knew at that moment like wow it’s not

it’s not a compulsive act. It’s actually a controlled controlled speech. I saw that he could control the words that were to come out of his mouth and to think at one time I thought I was gonna have the ability to or thought I would have the ability to defy science no no those individuals that say things to hurt others feelings, and repeatedly do it over and over again, they have no soul. They have absolutely no soul there dark and empty and cold inside their hair just to make sure they destroy others. That’s like that’s all they do is a real you in seem like sweet nice people and then as soon as they they think think they caught y’all all the way and you aren’t gonna go anywhere that is when they start to pick you apart. I’ve never been picked apart before none till then. It was kind of hard to deal with. I’ve never been treated that way i’ve never been spoken to that way ever words are a lot, and I truly believe that you are to treat others the way you want to be treated and in no way shape or form do I feel that anyone should hurt anyone’s feelings I don’t care I mean, constructive criticism. Yes that’s fine but to hurt someone’s feelings like words can literally destroy a person or build a person and if you’re not building someone then why are you speaking? If you have nothing nice to say you should just be silent and sit over there in the corner don’t nobody wanna hear the word that coming out your mouth at least I don’t and I’m sure the person next to me doesn’t either I don’t know where I was going with this. I was talking about the rough things that I’ve had to deal with this year and the things I’ve had to do and now here I go on and on about a narcissist, but I can say that I know the tough things that I’ve had to go through in the work that I’ve had to do not only to overcome that destruction of what another did to me mentally and to even have them knock every thing every dream every idea anything it wasn’t it was never supported. It was ignored our beat down and before the end of 2025 I guess we’ll see where I’ll be and if all this hard work pays off I know it’s hot right now. Jesus this whole week has been gruesome when I guess I’m gonna end this with always drive for that dream no matter what other people say treat others the way you want to be treated in no matter what you’re awesome. You’re amazing. We live in a magical magical world amongst evil monsters who will never win smile be happy. It’s so good for you